Sunday, August 6, 2017

Recipe - Thukpa (from Ladakh)

So my husband returned yesterday from Ladakh and he told me about this exquisite and delicately spiced noodle soup which they had as a staple diet throughout the ride.

This is what it looks like and I tried to make it today.

Here's the recipe:
It's quite simple.
1. Boil just a handful of noodles with a bit of salt.
2. Heat oil and add some minced garlic and chopped green chillies.
3. Add a cup of onion. Cook till translucent. Add chopped tomatoes. Cook well.
4. Add veggies of your choice. Cabbage, French beans, mushrooms, cabbage, corn, carrots etc. If you want the non-veg version, add shredded chicken.
5. Saute and let them turn soft.
6. Add garam masala (just a tad pinch), red chilly powder (pinch), black pepper powder, salt and chicken masala (even for the veg version). I also added some Maggi magic masala.
7. Add water and let it boil, like soup. When it's done, add the noodles and top it up with coriander. You can add a spot of vinegar too, if you want a tangy taste.
Check on the net. There are many variations of this recipe.

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Review: Maya's New Husband

Maya's New Husband Maya's New Husband by Neil D'Silva
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I read and finished this book in a day. But I wished I had waited to read it. That's because currently, my pet dog has a terrible skin condition, the sky is dismal and dark and it has been raining for a couple of days and my maid just infirmed me that a dead body washed up by the shore at a beach close to my residence. There is enough in the world, already to be mortified about and then there's this book. It's just added an extra layer of 'dismal' to my mood. Then why the four stars?

I normally associate horror fiction with ghosts lurking in the cupboard and beds moving around in the middle of the night and that sort of imaginary stuff. So when I picked up this book, I fully expected to read it with my eyes closed, as I normally do, when I am encountered with a stray horror movie on the TV screen. But this book is not that sort of horror. This has nothing to do with those things we cannot see or comprehend. It is about the ghosts that lie deep within us. Monsters who walk around us, live and eat and breathe with is, in the garb of human beings. And the possibility that this can happen to any of us, that is the most horrific feeling of all.

To begin with, if you are a fan of crime and gore and shows like Criminal Minds and Dexter, and movies like the 'chainsaw massacre' series are your thing, this book may suit your 'palate'. Pardon the obvious pun. You'll know what I am talking about when you read the book.

The book had me hooked from the first page. It's quick and fast paced, breezy reading. Though, I skipped a lot of paragraphs simply because some parts were too gory for my taste. Honestly, there's no suspense in this book. From the start you know what is going to happen and you just have to go along with this journey till it meets it's logical end, which is also quite predictable. So don't expect a literary masterpiece, this one. But yes, with its simple and lucid language, and a breezy pace, the book makes for a quick and easy read. The writer has very effectively brought the scenes to life with his narrative.

I don't recommed that you read it on a plane or train ride. Choose a nice sunny day, when everything seems perfect. So when you are finished with this book, you can get back to the rainbows and ribbons, happy sunshine and chirping birds (alive) outside your bedroom window and not feel so dismal after all.

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Monday, May 8, 2017

My favourite ad!!!

If you are a reader and live to read, you will instantly connect with this ad. It's the best...of course, as is the product. 

Tuesday, May 2, 2017

Gifting ideas for mothers (and no, I'm not talking about juicers, mixers, jewellery, clothes or perfumes.)

Mother's Day is around the corner. What are you thinking of getting for your mom? A very popular departmental store is advertising special gifts for Mother's Day. Mixers and juicers and blenders and bakery items et al. Stereotypical, isn't it? Their marketing team needs to delve deeper into the 'mommy psyche' in the modern age jewellery, kitchenware, clothes, makeup, chocolates, flowers...oh my god! The most stereotyped and overrated gifts for mother's day. Think deeply...think like your mother. What she would like...and you will realise that there is a wealth of items out there which are not even being considered as potential gifts.   Here are some items which can make for some excellent gifts for your mums. Feel free to add to this list.

1. Apple TV/ Chromecast

These are fantastic gadgets which convert your phone into an instant transmitter and whatever you see on your phone is mirrored on your TV. So you could be watching a movie on your screen and with the help of these gadgets, all you need is a wifi connection (which most of us have) and viola...transmit any video from your phone to the TV set. I recently bought a Chromecast for my mother and grandmother. They have become online content addicts. They watch plays, old movies and what not available for free on youtube, movies, documentaries which are never ever transmitted on TV. These gadgets are easy to use and cost between 3000 to about 10000 and some even more. But they are worth every paisa. A makes for a truly wonderful gift...and I speak with personal experience.

2. Kindle/ Kobo/ Nook et al. (E-book readers)
I know a lot of women who love to read. An ebook reader is a blessing for all of us who love to read. E-readers are a technological marvel (after air conditioning) and a blessing for all those of us who live to read. And honestly, for all those of you who like to read, it doesn't matter whether it is an ebook or a normal paperback. Words are the same. This is a perfect gift for all those mums who love reading. Just also get her an unlimited library subscription of whatever gadget you buy for her.

3. Sports Shoes and fitness bands
I have to admit. The older generation is a lot more health conscious then the younger lot. My mother and grandmother as well as my in-laws, they don't go a single day without their morning walks, yoga sessions etc. A good pair of sturdy walking or running shoes can add a spring to their step and motivate them further. The same goes for fitness bands cum trackers which are quite a rage nowadays and can help keep them a track of their daily activities.

4.  Colouring books and brush pens
Colouring books are a fantastic stress buster. I've tried those myself and I am hooked on to these wonderful colouring pages. Colouring books will make for great gifts for Mother's Day. Best stress busters ever.

5. Membership for her favourite hobby class
They may have wanted to do it for so long but they won't do it. Unless you don't prompt and prod, they will think that paying money for a hobby class, that too for their own selves, it is a complete waste of money. So why don't you sign them up for something which they truly love doing? Some of them want to learn the keyboard, some want to learn French and yet others want to sample with scuba diving. Find the thing she loves and just set her off on this new exciting hobby. She will discover a whole new side to her.

Do you have any more ideas? Please feel free to add to the list. Let me kow what else can make for some excellent presents for your mom! Add in the comments section and I will update this list.

Please note: This article is purely written as a personal choice. I have NOT been paid by any of the brands which have been mentioned in the article and this is NOT a promotional piece. It is purely for information.

Saturday, April 8, 2017

The Dog and the Elephant

This beautiful story came to me as a forward on facebook. At one time or the other, we have been riddled with self-doubt. We constantlt compare ourselves with other people and things...even in circumnstances that we cannot control. Therefore, this story makes such a wonderful point and puts things in perspective. 

Monday, April 3, 2017

Instant Dosa Mix Recipe

So I found this excellent recipe for an instant dosa mix on Hebbar's Kitchen. A page which I follow on youtube. This is a quick and easy mix.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

When they found Sridevi's lost sister

When I was a girl, my father had subscribed to the magazine 'Cine Blitz' which was delivered, each and every month, to his office address. One evening, my father came home looking very excited.

Opening his Samsonite briefcase (yes, those were the days when all respectable office going people had to carry a briefcase), he brouhgt out the latest issue of Cine Blitz. Now remember, those were the days of limited TV and there wasn't much of a concept of Page 3 back, so we got most of our filmy gossip in magazines. Month on month, we would wait for the issue to be delivered. And we would take turns to devour the filmy gossip. 

So coming back to the point, calling out to my mom, my dad waved the magazine in front of me looking very excited. 

Actual Cover of Cine Blitz
"It seems that Sridevi had a beautiful sister hidden away somewhere and no one in the world knew about it."

"What?" I was more excited than my mother. There she was, on the cover of this magazine. Flawless complexion, beautiful beautiful woman. An apt sibling for the superstar. How could she be hidden for so long? And why did she have to reveal herself now? You can see for yourself, how beautiful this unknown woman was. 

I don't remember exactly how and when this was revealed but a few days later, we came to know that this was not Sridevi's sister. She wasn't related to Sridevi in any way. And what was the most shocking news? She wasn't even a woman!!!

As we shocked as we all were, it turns out that this was one of the most elaborate pranks ever played on the readers of Cine Blitz. This was an April Fool prank. The person behind this face was none another than the fabulous actor Anupam Kher!!! Can you imagine the balding actor passing off as a beautiful woman? And this was long before photoshop existed, mind you. A big salute to the make-up artist and the photographer. Mickey Contractor and the Late Gautam Rajyadhakshya. 

As I sat, today morning, sipping on my chai and thinking about April Fool's Day pranks, this was the one which came instantly to my mind. In my opinion, on of the best Fool's Day pranks ever. 

I got the image from the internet. This was the actual cover which came out that month. 

Friday, March 31, 2017

How to combat swimming pool chlorine

Dear friends, 
As I write this, the summer is beating down outside my window and not a single leaf moves on the gulmohar tree next to my house. Isn't this the most opportune time to bring out your swimming costumes and dive into the pool? Swimming is one of the best exercises ever but unfortunately, I can't reall say the same thing about its effects on your hair. If you are not particularly careful, you may end up with an athlete's chiselled body and hair looking like the cow's chewing cud. 

I remembered an article which I had written long ago for some magazine which spoke about hair care for swimmers. I am reproducing it here for all those of you who swim but don't know how to take care of the chlorine in the water. Here they are. I hope these tips are useful to you.

Before your swim, wet your hair
If you are a regular swimmer, you must have seen the showers that surround the pool. They are there for a reason more important than pool decoration. Hair soaked with fresh water is less likely to soak chlorine. Douse that hair well under the shower before you jump in.

Keep it covered

Always make sure that you wear a rubber, swimming cap. It is that messiah that will keep out most of the damage done by chlorine water, even if it cannot keep all the water out. And please don’t complain that it’s too tight because most sports stores have swimming caps in all sizes…even if you have a big head. Speedo has some beautiful swimming caps. Try their range. The effects of chlorine remain in your hair even after you are done swimming and drying up. Cover your hair up when you go out in the hot sun with a scarf or a cap/hat to prevent chlorine from doing further damage to your hair. And this in fact can be your cool fashion statement for the hot months.

Pre-swim conditioning
If you are swimming in the sun, you can comb in a bit of conditioner to your hair before you wear
your cap. The heat of the sun will help the treatment penetrate better and also, when you wash your hair post the swim, they wont dry up as much. 

Post swim TLC
After your swim, rinse your hair thoroughly with fresh water and condition them again, only if required. A lot of us tend to skip the post-swim hair wash which causes the straw hair effect. Once you are done, gently pat your hair dry instead of rubbing or scrubbing it. Squeeze the water out of the hair and in case you want to blow dry it, use only the lower setting of your hair dryer as strong heat can dry out your hair. If you swim almost daily, once a week you must apply a deep conditioner and allow it to set on your hair for the required time.

Say no to hair colour 
If you are a regular swimmer, your hair will be subjected to enough dose of chlorine. Why would you further want to destroy it by subjecting it to colours, treatments and perms? Go a bit low on the chemical treatments during the swimming season. Your hair needs a breath of fresh air and you should be giving it just that after your beauty swim.

There are a lot of hair masks etc. that you can use to pamper your hair. Make use of all your grandmother's tips and tricks to keep that glow in your mane. I'll dig out some tips and put it up in the next post. Till then toodeloo!

Thursday, March 30, 2017


At the time, it seemed very large and it was quite heavy. It was a hand me down, from someone who obviously didn't live or breathe to read. It was a very old edition of the 1001 Arabian Nights. 

The book was unforgettable in so many ways. 
It was so heavy that my two little hands would ache just by carrying it around.  
It was perhaps as old as the Arabian Night stories. The pages were yellowed and frayed at the edges, the spine was almost coming off and the book had an 'old book' smell to it, if you know what I mean. Most book lovers will recognise the musty odour of an old book. 
But even inspite of its sad condition, it was the most beautiful book to me. A sky-blue hard bound cover, approximately a foot long and two inches thick, the book had the most beautiful hand drawn illustrations. 

I must have been five or six when my mother gave me the book. At the time, I was just about beginning to decipher the alphabet. My mother would read parts of it every night and the unread parts, well, I would only imagine those with the aid of the lovely paintings in the book. 

A few months later, I began to read on my own. The book was so special to me in so many ways. I was an only child and that book was my first friend in times when my parents were at work and there was no one else to play with. I travelled continents, made friends with imaginary princes and princesses, empathised and lauded Princess Scheherazade and hated King Shahryār with the same aplomb. 

And simply becuase it was so large and there was so much to read, the book stayed with me for quite a long time. I read it from cover to cover, not once, not even twice, but many many times. At the time, I knew each picture and sketch from the wonderfully detailed book. 

As time passed on, as it always, I graduated from the Arabian Nights to Enid Blyton and then Nancy Drew and then Hardy Boys, Sidney Sheldon and then many many more. Gradually, the book, heavy as it was, it stayed in some dusty corner of our attic and honestly, I don't even know what happened to it. Perhaps it turned to sand, like the landscape of much of of its stories...or became food for the hungry rats which always seemed to thrive in my attic. Perhaps my mother handed it over to someone else who would be influenced by the rich tapestry of the story telling and go on to dream many technicoloured dreams like I did. I don't know. 

But one thing remains for sure. My first book, the torn and tattered 1001 Arabian Nights, it laid a foundation of vivid imagination and multicoloured dreams, the carpet on which I still fly around to this day. 

1. This post was inspired by the IndiSpire edition 164 of "Which is the first book you read all by yourself, and what happened to you after that?" #MyFirstBook
2. Pictures are courtesy of The Project Gutenberg website on which a copy of the 1001 Arabian Nights resides for free reading. 
You can click this link to read this lovely book.

Postcards from Rajasthan

Meherangarh Fort, Jodhpur

The beautiful blue city of Jodhpur from atop Mehrangarh Fort

The Missing Tile Syndrome

At some point or the other, in our lives, we have all been afflicted by the 'Missing Tile' syndrome. This has been so beautifully explained in the video.

To put it in a nutshell, the missing tile is that piece which gets the most focus of our attention. Comparing this to our lives, we are always concentrating on the tile which is missing. Better jobs, better hair, looks, someone else's kids...thereby completely ignoring what we already have.

Check out this video and let me know what you think...

Saturday, March 25, 2017

David and Goliath

That's Patch the Pooch and Tooshielia the Turtle.
They are my four legged babies.
They are best of friends and Tooshie bullies my little big Patch whenever she gets the chance. As you can see, he is mighty scared of her especially when she looks at him defiantly, right into his eyes.

Pic Copyright: Sunila Karir

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Say NO to stay safe

Late night, a few weeks ago, I got a call from my friend. She was very upset.

She was being constantly being pursued by someone who she didn’t want to be friends with. They were on the same vacation group tour where he had come with his wife. Their personal interaction during the tour was minimal and she never responded to him even when he tried to befriend her.  

After the tour, this person began to send her messages on her phone. She chose to ignore them because she had no intention of being friends with him.

“He creeps me out.” She had complained, during my chat with her, while her holiday was still going on.

She blocked his number on her phone. So he contacted her via Facebook. She blocked him there too. It didn’t end there. A few nights ago, he sent her another barrage of messages…from another phone number.

That’s when she called me in utter distress. She didn’t respond to his message and simply blocked him. She lives alone, in a big city. At this stage, she is embarrassed to take help from her parents who are aged. She is afraid that they will worry too much. She doesn’t want to make a big deal about it and so she is choosing to ignore it.

It’s a mistake that most women make...ignoring the signs of what could end up being a fatal flaw.

If you are uncomfortable with a message or a conversation or a touch, PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN IMMEDIATELY. It could be anyone…a boss or a co-worker, an uncle, teacher, cousin. Most women ignore these signs of silent stalking. Very often, it ends up badly.

I know a lot of instances where trouble has been nipped in the bud, right in the beginning, simply because the woman was strong and bold enough to put her foot down and draw the line, as soon as the problem began.  

A boss who is getting a bit too close, that professor who accidently keeps brushing against you or that one person who keeps starring at you making you uncomfortable…you need to let the person know that you are NOT ok with it. What’s the worse that can happen? They will think of you as snobbish or prudish. But how does their opinion matter, in any case?

This is especially useful if you are living alone…like my friend. If you are being troubled by someone, confide in someone who is trustworthy and who can help you in the time of need. In the worse case scenario, someone will at least know that you are in potential trouble.

This is true in the literal sense as well as the figurative. It is natural to cower, lower your glance or hunch a bit when trouble is near. A few women begin to walk faster when they spot a trouble maker. Your posture and body language is a dead giveaway and gives your perpetrator the upper hand.

Look at the person eye to eye, without stooping or cowering. You don’t need to stop what you are doing or run away when trouble is close at hand. Most often, such people are cowards and looking at them straight in the eye is what can solve the problem then and there itself.


It’s quite ok to be badass. If this person is making you uncomfortable, don’t wait for years to write an anonymous blog post about it. I know of one woman who got her justice by releasing incriminating evidence on social media. Someone was sending her inappropriate jokes and pictures messages on Facebook messenger. They were extremely embarrassing…but finally, she mustered courage and took print screens of all these messages. Tagging him, she put them up on Facebook. I’m sure he must have been trolled by his friends and family. The result was that the rascal deleted his Facebook account and disappeared. Let’s hope he never harassed another woman again.

A lot of women, even the so-called urban educated ones, tend to destroy the evidence because the natural instinct is to get away from trouble. But this is a big mistake. Technology can be used to your best advantage. Keep a record of the messages/ phone calls. If things get bad, you can use this to take legal action against the person. A lot of harassment cases don’t come to any conclusion because of lack of evidence. Instinctively, you will be tempted to block the number, delete the messages. This is a mistake.

If things get really bad, you can use all your evidence to show to the cops or an advocate who can help you out. Police can be especially useful in such matters. There are Cyber Cells, Special Women’s forces etc. to help you in case of such matters.

Its important to remember that most cases of sexual harassment, eve teasing or molestation happen because the perpetrator thinks that he can get away with it. You need to say no the minute you think it’s happening to you. Small offences lead to bigger crimes like rape. Therefore it’s always better to be safe than sorry.